Today I went to court. It was my 3rd scheduled hearing for temporary support. My husband's attorney spent 30 minutes reviewing my mostly cheerful posts to tell the court, " I did not need support." The hearing ran late and Judge said it would have to be finished later this month.
I was left with no relief once again, after one year of asking for temporary support. My legal fees have been driven by my ex's refusal to provide documents forcing me to subpoena multiple individual's and entities.
1. Claim you are disabled and unable to work.
2. Remove your spouse from all accounts without their knowledge and allow them to deposit earnings in those accounts. The bank will not notify them they have been removed until they attempt a substantial withdrawal for attorney. (This gives you the benefit of stealing every last resource they have for attorney fees)
3. Destroy Stock Certificates
4. Pocket Cash Lease Payments (Added advantage you don’t have to pay income tax or sales tax)
5. Don’t report income for jobs worked
6. Don’t report income for commissions received
7. Claim ½ the income you deposit into your personal checking account and say the rest came from your mother. (Even if it didn’t, the other person’s time and resources will be depleted filing for subpoenas, entering every entry of your account.)
8. Cash check’s received for work, disposal of marital assets and commissions.
9. Only deposit what you need to pay bills in accounts.
10. Gain pity- tell people you love your spouse and hope to reconcile. Once you have their pity, you can tell them your spouse is an alcoholic whore that took every last penny you had. (If people believe your lies, they just might assist you in harming your ex or at least help cover your back)
11. Go to Alanon meetings- It helps confirm your ex is an alcoholic.
12. Go to Church and ask people to pray for your Alcoholic ex so “they be saved and stop their wicked ways and return to their marriage.”
13. Alienate your ex personally and professionally- use 10-13 to damage their relationship with friends, tenants, employers and clients. This will hinder their ability to earn or borrow funds for their attorney.
14. Lie to your attorney. It will take months before they figure it out and in the mean time they will do everything in their power to hurt your ex. They may fire you in the end but you can always borrow more money from your mother for a new attorney.
15. Refuse discovery.
16. File a motion for protection due to discovery being harassing. (i.e. They are asking me to prove my disability and that hurt my feelings)
17. Submit incomplete discovery. You may submit bank statements but leave out all the canceled checks so income cannot be tracked.
18. Deny access to property. If ex tries to access property to verify work or assets. File a petition for protection with the court.
19. Call the police on them while they are at work even if you have no basis. This will cause damage to their work relationships because they will be forced to leave work and deal with it.
20. Provoke them behind the officer’s back- while your spouse is talking to officer, make rude gestures and laugh smugly – this might provoke them to behave irrationally.
21. Refuse to pay child support or pay late. This will cause financial hardship and as long as it is current when you enter court it really does not matter.
22. Use the child. Don’t tell your spouse where or who you live with and never bring child back on time. Make them worry about their child every time you visit with them. This will make them appear paranoid and undermine their creditability.
23. Don’t pay property taxes. The county cannot do anything until they are 3 years past due and the debt will devalue property.
24. Don’t pay true sales tax. Income may be verified via sales tax. The department of revenue does not question if taxes are reduced. They are only flagged if payment is missing.
25. Submit corporate return balance sheets with all zeros entered. This may get you in trouble with the IRS but, it takes years for them to act and the divorce will be over by then.
26. File joint returns even though you are separated and claim your ex’s child from another marriage even if they did not live with you.
27. File electronic joint returns. This way you don’t have to actually forge ex’s name and they will not get refund they were counting on to pay attorney fees.
28. Remove ex as officer on all corporations on state filings.
29. File S corp election making you 100% shareholder without ex’s knowledge.
30. Don’t pay hospital or medical bills. The stress you cause with actions above may cause your ex physical illness. If past medical bills are outstanding they won’t be able to seek treatment. This may limit their strength and ability needed to uncover your lies.
31. Increase legal expenses. Easy as refusing discovery, filing irrelevant petitions, requests for custody, etc.
32. Liquidate Assets- prior to filing have frequent garage sales and sell everything you can on craigslist. (Bonus sell things that ex holds dearly like their family remains or jewelry. Your ex will be so distraught by the loss they will forget to ask for any funds of the sale.)
33. Take personal assets from ex prior to filing such as engagement rings, cameras, electronics. Don’t leave them anything they could sell and use for attorney fees.
34. Present crap in court. Focus on ex’s facebook posts at a hearing for temporary support rather than defending your liquidation and manipulation of assets. Focus on the fact your ex has a new lover and don't mention you have been cohabitating with an intimate lover, slept with your ex's friends, and business associates. The hearing will run out of time and your ex will receive no relief.
35. Use PO Box. Have all mail go to PO Box where ex may not access to limit her knowledge of everything mentioned above.
36. Change computer password so they may not access any financial records.
37. Forge their name- the state will not prosecute a spouse for forging another spouses name unless it is on a warranty deed, mortgage or check. Corporate documents, covenants not sue, tax returns are fair game.
38. Play with the corporate books by entering income as loan’s from shareholder to reduce income.
39. Stalk your ex. Make them afraid to go out in public and defend themselves.
40. Threaten your ex, their family and friends. If you do this right, their family and friends will be so afraid for your ex, they will tell them to settle.
I was left with no relief once again, after one year of asking for temporary support. My legal fees have been driven by my ex's refusal to provide documents forcing me to subpoena multiple individual's and entities.
My ex has also filed ridiculous motions that I was forced to respond to.
My lack of funds have been forced to prepare 95% of the financial documents presented in court. I have spent on average 40-80 hours a week since September preparing documents. It has been like putting together a puzzle with half the pieces missing. My time and efforts have limited my ability work caused extreme duress.
Today, I am past due on my rent, I don't have funds to cover utilities, doctor's visits, groceries, etc. Yet, my ex is out celebrating, feeling success at my denial of relief.
Below is the facebook post I wish the judge focused on. It is a list of some of the tactics he used to harm me and my children!
Take this as a warning whether you posts on facebook or negative or positive they will be used in court. It is best to post nothing at all!
Take this as a warning whether you posts on facebook or negative or positive they will be used in court. It is best to post nothing at all!
40 Ways to hide your true income and assets during a divorce:
(The
following works best if you start 1 year before filing)
1. Claim you are disabled and unable to work.
2. Remove your spouse from all accounts without their knowledge and allow them to deposit earnings in those accounts. The bank will not notify them they have been removed until they attempt a substantial withdrawal for attorney. (This gives you the benefit of stealing every last resource they have for attorney fees)
3. Destroy Stock Certificates
4. Pocket Cash Lease Payments (Added advantage you don’t have to pay income tax or sales tax)
5. Don’t report income for jobs worked
6. Don’t report income for commissions received
7. Claim ½ the income you deposit into your personal checking account and say the rest came from your mother. (Even if it didn’t, the other person’s time and resources will be depleted filing for subpoenas, entering every entry of your account.)
8. Cash check’s received for work, disposal of marital assets and commissions.
9. Only deposit what you need to pay bills in accounts.
10. Gain pity- tell people you love your spouse and hope to reconcile. Once you have their pity, you can tell them your spouse is an alcoholic whore that took every last penny you had. (If people believe your lies, they just might assist you in harming your ex or at least help cover your back)
11. Go to Alanon meetings- It helps confirm your ex is an alcoholic.
12. Go to Church and ask people to pray for your Alcoholic ex so “they be saved and stop their wicked ways and return to their marriage.”
13. Alienate your ex personally and professionally- use 10-13 to damage their relationship with friends, tenants, employers and clients. This will hinder their ability to earn or borrow funds for their attorney.
14. Lie to your attorney. It will take months before they figure it out and in the mean time they will do everything in their power to hurt your ex. They may fire you in the end but you can always borrow more money from your mother for a new attorney.
15. Refuse discovery.
16. File a motion for protection due to discovery being harassing. (i.e. They are asking me to prove my disability and that hurt my feelings)
17. Submit incomplete discovery. You may submit bank statements but leave out all the canceled checks so income cannot be tracked.
18. Deny access to property. If ex tries to access property to verify work or assets. File a petition for protection with the court.
19. Call the police on them while they are at work even if you have no basis. This will cause damage to their work relationships because they will be forced to leave work and deal with it.
20. Provoke them behind the officer’s back- while your spouse is talking to officer, make rude gestures and laugh smugly – this might provoke them to behave irrationally.
21. Refuse to pay child support or pay late. This will cause financial hardship and as long as it is current when you enter court it really does not matter.
22. Use the child. Don’t tell your spouse where or who you live with and never bring child back on time. Make them worry about their child every time you visit with them. This will make them appear paranoid and undermine their creditability.
23. Don’t pay property taxes. The county cannot do anything until they are 3 years past due and the debt will devalue property.
24. Don’t pay true sales tax. Income may be verified via sales tax. The department of revenue does not question if taxes are reduced. They are only flagged if payment is missing.
25. Submit corporate return balance sheets with all zeros entered. This may get you in trouble with the IRS but, it takes years for them to act and the divorce will be over by then.
26. File joint returns even though you are separated and claim your ex’s child from another marriage even if they did not live with you.
27. File electronic joint returns. This way you don’t have to actually forge ex’s name and they will not get refund they were counting on to pay attorney fees.
28. Remove ex as officer on all corporations on state filings.
29. File S corp election making you 100% shareholder without ex’s knowledge.
30. Don’t pay hospital or medical bills. The stress you cause with actions above may cause your ex physical illness. If past medical bills are outstanding they won’t be able to seek treatment. This may limit their strength and ability needed to uncover your lies.
31. Increase legal expenses. Easy as refusing discovery, filing irrelevant petitions, requests for custody, etc.
32. Liquidate Assets- prior to filing have frequent garage sales and sell everything you can on craigslist. (Bonus sell things that ex holds dearly like their family remains or jewelry. Your ex will be so distraught by the loss they will forget to ask for any funds of the sale.)
33. Take personal assets from ex prior to filing such as engagement rings, cameras, electronics. Don’t leave them anything they could sell and use for attorney fees.
34. Present crap in court. Focus on ex’s facebook posts at a hearing for temporary support rather than defending your liquidation and manipulation of assets. Focus on the fact your ex has a new lover and don't mention you have been cohabitating with an intimate lover, slept with your ex's friends, and business associates. The hearing will run out of time and your ex will receive no relief.
35. Use PO Box. Have all mail go to PO Box where ex may not access to limit her knowledge of everything mentioned above.
36. Change computer password so they may not access any financial records.
37. Forge their name- the state will not prosecute a spouse for forging another spouses name unless it is on a warranty deed, mortgage or check. Corporate documents, covenants not sue, tax returns are fair game.
38. Play with the corporate books by entering income as loan’s from shareholder to reduce income.
39. Stalk your ex. Make them afraid to go out in public and defend themselves.
40. Threaten your ex, their family and friends. If you do this right, their family and friends will be so afraid for your ex, they will tell them to settle.
I think we are the same person.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry you had to go through this. Many others have experienced the same. Men are not men anymore, they are children. You simply cannot let it get the best of you. Sorry to say but dirtbags like this will always win, the judicial system is set up to keep women subservient. Make a life of what little you have left. No matter how poor you live, at least he won't be in it. I am praying the courts do the right thing in your case but evil usually prevails in family law so you have to focus on how to survive now.
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